BORN TOO LATE

TRAMPOLINE05_cropLooking back in history to Sandstone’s sexual revolution in the 60’s and 70’s you will know that we wanted out of bondage and be free to explore and discover our little known inner self. We continually searched the consciousness to understand our purpose in life and help us mature from childhood to adulthood.

Sandstone dominated the Media coverage from 1970 through 1973. Over the past several years the mass audience has been exposed to Sandstone through numerous articles in diverse publications. I appeared on the Dick Cavett show with the Sandstone philosophy to inform the world that from my perspective life was a banquet and most poor souls were starving to death.

For those of you born too late for Sandstone here are some excerpts from a few publications with a total circulation well in excess of 15,000,000 copies.

 Rolling Stone: 1972 “Sensuality Comes to Suburbs.” In the City of the Angels, in the land of sensory overload, it’s Saturday night. From out a plate glass window in the main room of Sandstone Institute, you can watch the full moon make patterns on the ocean waves. Every 15 minutes a new couple arrives…Just regular folks, the kind you see in the shopping plaza on Saturday morning with three kids in the back of a station wagon. Inside the main room, 35 people are sprawled on the sofa and over the floor, eating dinner. Half of them are totally naked. Sipping wine and making conversation.

 LOS ANGELES TIMES: 1972 “Sandstone: Close-up of a Unique Life-style.” Sandstone combines an alternate life-style, a community, a private club and retreat, and a sociological research community. While there is a definite sexual basis for their interpersonal relationships.. . Sandstone is not a “sex club” or a wife swapping fraternity, at least not in the usual sense. While newcomers may be awed by the open sexuality, most old timers are more relaxed by the atmosphere and say they thrive in an environment which allows them to experience sex without guilt or social stigma.

 ESQUIRE 1972 “ Nobody Serves Onion Dip at Sandstone” Most American Suburbs are swinging these days. In the Los Angeles suburb, group sex has achieved a higher consciousness. An Esquire writer recently visited a place completely in harmony with the rest of our suburb, Sandstone Retreat. They make love openly, unconcerned by the lack of privacy, and, not intimidated by things that might inhibit outsiders. It is a fundamental concept at Sandstone that the human body is good, that sexuality is a positive force toward greater intimacy and understanding.

 PENTHOUSE 1972 “SANDSTONE—A LOVE COMMUNITY” On a California estate overlooking the Pacific, sexual hang-ups are treated by permissive therapy or orgy, depending on how you see it. I read some papers written by John Williamson where I found Williamson’s rationale for the Sandstone Community. Sex emerged as one of the major ways in which people must learn to communicate. “We waste a lot of time and energy on fantasies” said John, “I think that if you have a fantasy about taking your secretary to bed, then you should take her to bed, if she’s willing. That way you exhaust the fantasies and they can’t bother you. I’m not saying that public sex is better than private sex. It isn’t. A strong reaction against public sex is what’s debilitating. A little public sex will help you immensely in your private sex.”

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IT’S TIME TO STOP TALKING AND START LISTENING

meditation
We live in a world obsessed by speed and instant gratification. The online retailer Amazon.com is working to raise the bar from overnight shipping to same-day delivery using small, remotely piloted drones. It is almost unthinkable to us that people used to play chess BY MAIL, and that the great cathedrals of Europe were built over several generations.

In a world where beepers and one-hour film developing are no longer fast enough to suit us, we are left wondering how important the slow and serene art of meditation is to our health and well-being. It is critical. Critical is the perfect word since it means that which is of or about a crisis. Look at today’s headlines and ask yourself if we are in anything short of barely controlled anarchy.

Before the 1960s, most westerners saw the art of meditation as a mysterious and arcane practice. They did not know how, and they could not see why. Yet it was the key to filling a very urgent need for serenity, and when Maharishi’s ™ transcendental meditation made the art of contemplation more accessible, it attracted droves of new recruits. Everyone arriving at a gathering was given a beautiful red rose. It was the same message we had been hearing for years long past; it’s time to stop and smell the roses!

We are living in a culture that is driving itself crazy with distractions. We run to the shopping mall and spend money that we do not have in search of ever-elusive happiness. We go out to dinner and overeat or indulge in some sex without intimacy. We are looking for love in all the wrong places. We fool ourselves into thinking we find it by lowering the expectations of what love is. We love our hobbies, we love our favorite food, and having sex—any sex—is making love. I suppose anyone could meet any goal if they set it low enough. John and I liked pasta, we liked our hobbies. When we loved, it was spiritual and grand. Your love should be spiritual and grand as well.

The bottom line: people have lost their ability to stop their brain chatter, talking, talking, and more talking. If you want to be like me, it’s imperative that you set aside time daily to be alone and quiet to receive important messages from within yourself. You are so much more to discover than you realize. As Agnes Repplier said, it is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.

In the late 1960’s, when John and I created Sandstone Retreat much engineering went into the creation of this beautiful and natural setting making it seem like a magical mystery tour. It was a brief time in our history, when a crack appeared in our culture’s consciousness. It was time to embrace change! Quiet time was there to be utilized by those that were capable enough to take advantage of it and experience their real self. The crack in the cosmic egg inspired all sorts of, “do your own thing,” activity which you could discover and add your own brand of creativity.

Today with all the advances toward understanding the “Brain” new technology has been developed to aide meditation practices through frequencies that create deep relaxation in the mind. You don’t need to know how to meditate because technology will do it for you. We stand on the edge of an exciting new frontier.

LOST LOVE

kamasutraWell over a millennium ago, Indian Hinduism treated sex as an art, a science and a spiritual practice. It was not considered a remnant of some dark and ancient bestial behavior, but rather a civilizing force. As such they wrote extensive treatises on how to elevate their sexual potential.

The most famous pieces of Indian literature on sex are the Kamasutra (aphorisms on love) and the Kamashrastra (from kama “pleasure”, and shastra “skill”). This collection of explicit sexual writings, both spiritual and practical, covered most aspects of human courtship and intercourse. The Kamasutra is thought to have been written in its final form sometime between the third and fifth century AD, a period of Indian history when sex epitomized love, pleasure, synergy and happiness. It was a successful strategy, which begs the question why around the 11th or 12th century, India took a conservative turn toward decreased freedom for women and a proscription against premarital and extramarital sex. They wrote a new sex manual suitable for their new order.

In Jewish law, sex is not considered intrinsically sinful or shameful when conducted in marriage, nor is it a necessary evil for the purpose of procreation. Sex is considered a private and holy act between a husband and wife. The residue of sex (as with any lost bodily fluid) was considered ritually unclean outside the body, and required ablution. Perhaps this is how sex became cast as a dirty act, forming an imprint in our brain that must somehow be removed.

Christianity re-emphasized the Jewish attitudes on sexuality with two new concepts. First, there was the reiterated idea that marriage was absolutely exclusive and indissoluble, placing further guidance on divorce and expanding on the reasons and principles behind those laws.

Second, in Old Testament times marriage was almost universal, in continuity with the total matrimony in Eden, but in the New Testament, the trajectory is extended forward to the goal of no marriage in the new heavens and new earth (see Matthew 22). Practically therefore the new age after Jesus now has marriage as only normative, but celibacy is a valuable gift in and of itself.

In present time, it feels as though our free will and identities have been stolen from us. My understanding from birth has been that each of us has a free spirit and entitled to create and live a chosen fruitful life of discovery, adventure, productivity and happiness, without meddlers and the dictates of a false society. This period of an open attitude towards sex reflects love, pleasure, synergy and happiness in their culture.
It was necessary to have a sexual revolution and the reason we pioneered Sandstone Retreat, which became known as the hub of the sexual revolution.

In 1972 we went so far as to create the Sandstone Movie for viewers to look in on members happily living an alternate lifestyle. It just happened that our principals were in sync with Hindu principals and expression of an open attitude towards sex reflects love, pleasure, synergy and happiness in the culture. The Sandstone Movie (only one of a kind) has been re-released on https://www.indieflix.com site. Just go there register (free) and search for “Sandstone.” Enjoy this rare event.

Embracing Change

I met John in the mid-1960s, a hotbed of radical change. In those early days we had many discussions about our ability to manage change—to roll with it rather than watch it pass us by or run us down—and looked deep within ourselves for a fountain of renewal.  We wanted something to stave off stagnation and despair. We knew it would involve keeping an open heart and mind, remaining flexible, learning to love ourselves and others, and staying connected with Nature. We needed to be closely-knit halves of a perfect relationship that embraced cooperation and eschewed competition.

Perhaps we would end our pursuit of the American Dream that provided us great incomes while leaving us emotionally drained and feeling neglected.  Yes, I know that is counter-intuitive. If you are like most people, you want enough money that you don’t have to worry about where it’s coming from. But owning money is like owning a house—it must be maintained, and there are several ongoing expenses.

We turned our focus toward social engineering and created Sandstone Retreat to provide a pathway into the “changing lifestyles of the 70’s.” Sandstone Retreat opened a crack in the centuries-old wall of sexual suppression. We changed out of our designer clothes into total nudity, the one suit everyone can afford but finds most expensive suit of all to wear. Part with a few hundred dollars and you can deck yourself in Georgio Armani, but rock your birthday suit and you have to part with a whole mindset! Unlike Georgio Armani suits, when you discard one mindset, there is another one waiting around the corner to replace it, and you’d be surprised how good it can be! In the Sexual Revolution Era we had an expression, “If it feels good do it,” and we did it, and it felt good.

We found it necessary to resist the dominant cultural path that said dedicate your lives to earn lots of money and that will heal all of your woes.  Now, over forty years later we see the danger of such bridled vision leading down the pathway to moral bankruptcy.

Our perception was the earth was quickly becoming over crowded with humans now having the capability of purchasing unlimited number of toys, automobiles, appliances, hi-tech gadgets and severely creating misery and alienation within. At the same time folks were neglecting their critical emotional needs such as human touch, compassion, intimacy, caring, love, openness and truth that really makes our lives hum with a rich sense of well being.

Resisting change whether it is out of Fear or facing the Unknown keeps us locked in to a stagnant quagmire. Embracing change (easy once open to it) is Mother Nature’s way!